[This. This was always a tough thing to face, and it didn't always work.]

You're not going to like this, but...sometimes there isn't anything you can do. Sometimes these things happen, regardless of whether or not you could have affected the situation, and it- sucks.

Thinking you could have done something is hard; accepting that it was out of your control is even harder.

[He'd learned that one the hard way. Recovery, as it turned out, had been a terrible career option.]

Is this the first time you've lost someone?